最近

睡不着,索性起床写博。最近忙的一塌糊涂,被各种变数牵着鼻子走。今天在leasing office走去看房时,那位agent对我说,’when you come to my age, you will realize that there’s no need to stress out about anything’.

不知怎的,一边睡不着,一边还不断想着她的这句话。我确实太不会淡定。总是个说来话长的话题,可每每在情急的当下,总是没法自拔的全身心陷入。身体是重要的,懂得开关自己的情绪和压力更是必不可少。不知道什么时候才会慢慢学会。

不敢相信过来纽约才紧紧7天的时间,恍惚的似乎过了一个世纪。带着各种复杂情绪,又爱又恨的对着这座我朝思暮想的城市,时不时让我想到上海,又不时让我想念伦敦。

纽约的自由气氛是无任何城市能及的。对于能力和魄力的肯定,大概就只有这座城市了。只是少了伦敦的那份悠闲自得,和文化气息。在纽约的生活起居似乎适应的很顺利,偶尔想想,不过7天而已,总共在美国也没待超过3个月,不知为何感觉这么熟悉。似乎我一辈子都生活在一种美国生活的模拟模式中,真正到了这里,反而没太大反映了。

口音是立刻变回美音,Kate说我在骂人的时候口音还是很英国的。 :)

有的没的其实感想一堆,不过能如何呢?不过是 小事一桩,总会过去的。之后仍会有更烦人更挑战的事等着,需要的修炼是如何淡定。也许central park run可以再试试。一周多了,应该可以再好好跑跑了。

心境嘛,不知道最近是什么状态,总会有一过来的那种新鲜和慌乱感。以为上班前会轻松,可惜没有,不过也算是对心境的一个磨练。

 

New York Diary – First few days in New York

Less than 80 hours ago, I was still in the other city across the atlantic ocean. My life there continued until the last second when my plane took off. Three luggages, that’s all lI have with me and here I am, moved to New York city before I even realize.

Three days have passed, though feeling like ages. I’m in this surreal state of mind, don’t yet realize what this all means to me. I was busy with everything – literally everything.

The second I put down my bag, I started apartment hunting. researching all the best ways to look for roommates. Catching up with friends, going to company orientation, opening bank account, setting up US phone number, watching Cinderella Broadway show, night snack in Korean town. That was just my first day…

The new in town feeling is always good. This time it feels weird because nothing has hit me yet. Everything seems so familiar, all I need to do is keep making the to do list and keep ticking it off. I have never lived here before but my whole life I have been embraced into this culture. American culture has been a strong influence in my value and personality since a long long time.

Never say it too early, I haven’t started working yet. Maybe this will hit me really hard when I actually start. But either way, nothing will be as different as English culture to me. As much as I love London, I don’t know if I will ever fit in there. I mean, really blend in like a melting pot.

The first day when I started my orientation, the company benefit lady was kindly chatting with me. She was happily telling me about all the amazing places she has been to, her funny adopted dog from the Chinese neighbours could only understand orders in Chinese. The instant click with strangers is what I miss the most! People do not stare at me when I compliment their dress when they pass by. Actually many pedestrians have done that to me, both men and women! It’s a culture that chatting with strangers is OK! I don’t know how many people would understand when I say I feel the sense of freedom and liberty when I go to New York. It’s strange to many because there seem to be so many different metropolitan cities in the world. But there is no single one that embrace multi-cultural as good as the big apple. My biggest and strongest feeling is that I am no longer the minority. Most of the people here are either from another country or have double nationalities. Many speak more than one languages and they are interlinked with other cultures. It’s all part of their life. Seeing a well-travelled Chinese person doesn’t surprise or impress them, because I did what everyone else does. It’s a sense of belonging that I fit in. This is a place where people embrace beauty of all kind, where policies are made to ensure the ethnicity equality for employee rights. No one stares at me here as I look different, no one pays less attention to me because I’m not Caucasian.

I have to say, I am not treated badly in London, not at all. I have many beloved friends who care about me just for who I am. But the industry I’m in, it’s hard to ignore that I am the token Chinese, sometimes asian person on the whole floor.

Being surrounded by one dominant culture has never been my thing. I love and thrive in a culture where diversity is appreciated and respected. I am always fascinated by how many places my friends are from. Everyone is from different places, been to different places and going to different places in the future. Our path just crosses in certain point in time. Never sad to leave, as we know we may see each other again. Sometimes this feels like planting seeds all over the world,  take care of them and let them grow. No matter where you go later, you can always collect them and have great friends await in your upcoming journey!

No where else in the world that the pension lady will chat to me about her son and girlfriend, telling me about the Chinese grandmother making fish soup to her family, hard to find a lady that well travelled, knowledgeable, and kind with great sense of humour! She knows Flushing( a residential area in Queens where 90% are Chinese people) 100 times better than I do!

No where else in the world that the bank account manager will start googling images of new girl during our account set up meeting after I told her she looks like Jess. (She really does! identical!)

No where else in the world that I get that many compliments in the world. It’s the kind of compliment that gives you the sense of confirmation that they accept beauty of all kinds.  

No where else in the world has ever given me that much confidence and sense of belongings. I love New York city, a place where I am no longer the minority that gets different attention. A place where I can open up and completely be myself while feeling proud and happy about it.

There are enough Chinese friends for me to keep my tie with China and there are so many more people from all over the world that appreciate and loves the city the same way I do. We all come here for our own dreams.

Over dinner yesterday, out of the six of us, there were IT geeks, entrepreneurs, marketing professional, English, American, Indian and Chinese people. I was always afraid of playing pub quizzes with English people because the culture knowledge is always different.

All in all, I love where I am. 🙂 All I want now is a room in a nice apartment in Manhattan.

🙂

Under the most beautiful name – Love

I spent a very eventful weekend.

Delicious Sichuan cuisine dinner, Ronnie Scott’s jazz music night, London Soho fancy cocktail bar, Natural history museum wildlife exhibition, home dinner party with fellow friends, running in the park with a hangover, Valentino fashion exhibition and also a chilled night in with some good friends.

I’ve come to the point in my life when I start to discover what makes me happy. Life sometimes feels like a glass of cocktail, you know your taste better with time passing by, and can offer and make yourself the unique drink with the best combination that suits your own taste.

A big portion of food, a chunk of culture and art event, a handful of music and a flavour of fanciness is definitely key. food, culture, good company and sports are definitely the spirites in my cocktail, artsy, fancy and fashion would add on the extra flavour of Jingness. All these mixed together in the right proportion is what I call a formular to Jing’s happiness!

What makes it Jing? If you know anyone else who’d fancy going to a Valentino exhibition show, while decides to have a ‘civilized’ dinner party the night before, and ended the party with herself sick in the bathroom, with all the lights in the house on, and front door wide open; and feeling extremely guilty and decided to go for a 5k run to get rid of the alcohol in her body, then felt worse and needed hangover recover food and took a kebab and ate it on an open-air bench in the park before going to the fancy posh Valentino haute couture fashion exhibition, maybe this can give you a little flavour of what Jingness tastes like! 

Anyway, I just wanted to say, I had a wonderful weekend, and I’ve had a really fulfilled Monday too! One thing I do want to point out though, was how important healthy living and eating is. I hate being one of those who nags you, but simply speaking from personal experience. Having junk food for two days in a row, Mcd for breakfast, big chinese fat meat for dinner makes me feel sick and unwell! Going for a 5k run plus swimming and had a hot shower after stretching makes you feel like a different person!

I never thought eating and living healthy is that essential, not until you realize how much that is directly linked with your health and happiness! Picking up running and working out as a habit for only a month has changed me so much!

I’m off home for Chinese new year in 4 days time, but I do want to keep reinforcing this habit because it is what keeps you sane and remains you the happy true self! Only when you are happy with yourself can you be nice to others, only when you love yourself which enables you to love others.

Being responsible to oneself, being consistent and building and reinforcing working out and living and eating healthy as part of my life routine is my goal for 2013, and my primary focus in February!

Why? Because it’s under the most beautiful name – love!

Night! x

Life stage

When you start a day with news about your high school girlfriend pregnant for the 2nd child; when you make your morning coffee at work chatting with your colleague about his new-born baby and which school he considered sending him to; when you have a lunch meeting about pension plans from Zurich salesman and telling you how much you should plan for your future; when you think back like all this and felt not even that surprised?!

I was telling my colleague today that all these conversations have accelerated to a whole new level, he was half-kidding that one day you just start dating, and the next thing you know you are already thinking about where to send your kids to school!

My best friend traveled to the other city where our high school girlfriend lives. This is a week before Chinese new year, when everyone is coming back home and she managed to meet up with a lot of friends from high school. We graduated from university almost five years ago and this is the time when we start to realize the significant different between us. The happy and sad thing is our life path start massively distinguish and from now on, many of us will share less and less in common.

As I chatted with her, to some, money, kids, and husbands are way more important than dreams. To some, they think having an unstable life is such a pity and they think going abroad or ‘pursuing your dream’ is a silly and pathetic idea.

But I believed in what I believe today ten years ago, a seed was planted deeply in my heart and I haven’t changed a bit since the day I chose to believe in my dream. I won’t be the one waking up one day after 10, 20 years and wondering where that young dreamer has gone.

Dream is not something you should only write in diaries and let it fade away; dream is what you should believe in and do whatever you can to make it come true!

I’m alone but also surrounded by all the dearest friends who believe in the same belief and working hard to become a better self.

There is no right or wrong when it comes to people’s life belief; and we don’t have the right to judge each other. As long as it makes us happy, we are good. We are friends after all, let’s just wish all the best for each other!

Philharmonia Orchestra & rethink success

In memory of the famous Polish composer Witold Lutosławski, I went to the performance at Royal festive hall with Claire and friends yesterday. It was Krystian Zimerman’s solo pianist play, together with Phiharmonia Orchestra’s Principle composer Esa-Pekka Salonen.

Actually, to be more accurate, I had no idea who Witold Lutoslawski was, neither do I have any ideas of the Phiharmonia Orchestra, or heard of the composer or the pianist…

But Claire is a professional piano player, and I trust her judgement.We went to the orchestra and it turned out to be amazing. I’ve done my research afterwards and I’m here to share some ‘music’ knowledge with you. 🙂

Witold Lutosławski (Polish pronunciation: [ˈvitɔld lutɔsˈwafski]; 25 January 1913 – 7 February 1994) was a Polish composer and conductor. He was one of the major European composers of the 20th century, and one of the preeminent Polish musicians during his last three decades. He earned many international awards and prizes. His compositions (of which he was a notable conductor) include foursymphonies, a Concerto for Orchestra, a string quartet, several instrumental concertos and orchestral song cycles.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Witold_Lutos%C5%82awski

Zimerman was born in ZabrzePoland, and studied at the University of Music in Katowice under Andrzej Jasiński. His career was launched when he won the 1975 Warsaw International Frédéric Chopin Piano Competition. He performed with the Berlin Philharmonicconducted by Herbert von Karajan in 1976 and he made his debut in the United States with the New York Philharmonic in 1979. He has toured widely and made a number of recordings. Since 1996 he has taught piano at the Academy of Music in BaselSwitzerland.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krystian_Zimerman

Esa-Pekka Salonen (About this sound pronunciation (help·info); born June 30, 1958 in Helsinki) is a Finnish orchestral conductor and composer. He is currently Principal Conductor and Artistic Advisor of the Philharmonia Orchestra in London and Conductor Laureate of the Los Angeles Philharmonic.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Esa-Pekka_Salonen

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philharmonia_Orchestra

I’ve also watched another TED talk which I find very interesting and can’t agree more.

One of my favorite quotes from this talk is, ‘Next time you see someone driving a Ferrari, don’t think this is someone greedy, think this as someone who’s incredibly vulnerable and in need of love! Feel sympathy, rather than contempt.’ I do think this talk is applicable to the Luxury market and Chinese boost fast growing economy and many social phenomenon. Very interesting and inspiring.

School of Digit- China

I know, it sounds so big and scary! But I did it! At my current work place, there’s this legendary course going on about internal knowledge sharing. We believe that on top of our daily work expertise, there are so much more everyone of us know about and can share and inspire the rest of us. I took the lead on this and have decided to do one session just on China!

It all started during lunch one day. I was happily eating my homemade food, and one of my colleagues was staring at it and paused for a long time. Finally it started: Jing, is it true that in China…? 

hahahahaha! No we don’t wear wigs anymore! that was my immediate answer! I don’t really remember what exactly he asked, but by then I start to realize how many questions they must have about this mysterious unknown far east land!

I’ve decided to go ahead and tell them more about my country. A place populated with 1.3 billion people with a high ration of netizen and fast growing economy together with crazy e-commerce and social media.

I guess you can’t talk about China without mentioning our passion to food and self-portrait pictures, and our crazy busy life style and hard working ethics also influence a lot on our consumption and digital behaviour.

The digital world has changed and is still changing massively. Starting from 14 years ago, with the icq & oicq age to nowadays, facebook, twitter, sina weibo and renren age. The new era has begun with iOS integrated the Sina Weibo share app, and Instagram integrated with Sina weibo as well. 

How I see the world, is China catching up on technology and innovation. Instead of being the copycat, they start to adapt and take inspirations from the western world, learn and study their trends, but also pushing it to a higher standard, adding their own flavour to it, and more importantly, try to push back to the western world with their refined and better service.

To be honest, I don’t believe in this east-west competition theory, there’s no such thing as someone’s taking over the other. We live in the same world, and we are emerging into one. Instead of having too many different platforms and social media channels, we are all integrating and simplifying and making it united! It has happened and it will keep happening!

At the end of the day, who cares who invented or developed the app?! As long as it’s good and handy, we’ll all use it and everyone’s happy. We are human beings after all. As long as we stick to the fundamental human nature, we’re all good!

I feel extremely confident about the future of digital, because to me, it’s not just the future of the digital, that simply falls into the picture of a bigger integration of the world! 

Viva la monda! 😉

Paris Fashion Week

It was Paris Fashion week. Vogue has done an amazing job listing all the best dresses of the season. Two of my favorites. Both from Elie Saab.

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http://www.eliesaab.com/#/en/home

More information about this Lebanese Fashion designer. Saab won his overnight success by dressing Halle Berry at the Oscar in 2002.

‘He became an overnight success after he became the first Lebanese designer to dress an Oscar winner, Halle Berry, in 2002.[2] Berry wore a burgundy gown by Saab to the 2002 Academy Awards when she won for Best Actress. Berry later wore another dress by Saab, this time a gold dress, to the 2003 Oscars.’

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elie_Saab

Another fashion brand, is Bottega Veneta, my Shanghai roommate’s ‘home brand’. She comes from the region where Bottega Veneta was founded and based.

More famous for the high quality leathers

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bottega_Veneta

Finally, I’ve also listened to one today by Martin Seligman about Positive psychology:

I’m saving another TED talk here that I’d like to watch later.

Blue Monday

It has finally hit London town and we are covered in white beautiful snow! I’m really excited and happy about the weather, but that also makes me very demotivated the whole weekend.

I know I made a promise on the 2nd round of blogging, but it’s really a bit hard to do so. The snow makes everything slow down and stop, a weekend of chilling at home with not much achieved but watching TV, sorting files and drinking tea! A 2-min walk to the bus stop seems like a very challenging mission! Plus, 5 more days to go before payday!

I’m putting together a presentation about the Chinese social media history, alongside, checked some fashion and gossip news. Forgive me for my demotivation, a perfect term I found online today, rated the most depressing day of the year, is today- the 3rd Monday of January where people are most influenced by the weather, post Christmas hangover and also low on money plus the bloody diet you are on!

But I am in a really good mood for some reason. I love hanging out with my friends, and the feeling of surrounded by my beloved ones, chatting with my best friend from home everyday, and most importantly is the countdown to the ‘going home’ trip in two weeks time! the light at the end of the tunnel can brighten darkness of any kind!

Anyway, since I’m shamelessly a big fan of the vampire diaries, I’d share some findings on that today.:) So apparently, Paul Wesley (Stephan Salvatore) is married to the hot doctor in season 4, and Nina Dobrev and Iam Somerhalder are dating since 2011! I just love finding out gossips about people. lol, well let’s call it ‘knowledge sharing; anyway. 🙂

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Wesley

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ian_Somerhalder

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nina_Dobrev

I’m going to the gym to work off the fat and calories I’ve accumulated over the weekend! I’ll try to start reading and watch TED too. It’s seriously hard and all you want to do is to hibernate!

New hobbies + Live the present

I let my mind wander around, and waiting for my holidays to come. Since I’m unlikely to catch the horse-back riding class in time, I start to browse through other hobbies and classes I might be interested to take.

Creative writing, photography, crafts, and also acting. The last one is a bit odd and surprises  myself a little, but I think the aim of all these are trying to find ways to express myself and connect with the world. 

http://www.city-academy.com/3116/Beginners-Acting/139#-TimetableBooking 

One of the acting beginner class schedule attached here, together with some photography classes. 

I think something my mentors point out and I’m struggling with, is to focus on the present and live the moment. I spent my first seventeen years in the mentality of being nostalgic and always think of the past; The past eight years rushing to the future. I’m fully aware of what I should do and I put constant reminder of enjoying the moment, but it’s hard.

My mind distracts me and there are so many windows open all the time and too many things to do, it’s actually just in my mind…

Even when I’m writing this post, I’m thinking about the gossip I wanted to tell my boss, greeting a girl friend in Shanghai, replying my cousin’s message on weibo, writing my School of Digit post and also my shopping list back home and what I should cook Friday for dinner… hehe it’s funny to write them down, I’m also thinking about how to improve my writing, and what if Matt sees my post and thinks my writing sucks with so many grammar mistakes, and what I should tell Jon when I meet him in February. My mind is full and busy and constantly running and jumping. That makes me frustrated and anxious all the time. It’s normal and fair, if a machine spins in such speed non-stop all the time, I’d feel tired for it!

One interesting TED talk I’ve seen today is from Cameron Russels, a Victoria Secret underwear model. ‘Looks aren’t everything, trust me, I’m a model’. Very interesting and honest points. I think everything watching this would appreciate her guts saying these loud.

Day 1! – 21-Day Challenge Round 2! – Fashion, Culture, Arts

I went to see the Sleeping beauty performance at English National Ballet.  Classical music, orchestras, piano and concerts; ballet, opera, art and literature, showering in the cultural and arty rain, embracing the richness, feeling slightly overwhelmed, and secretly guilty for how little I know.

UK has a rich culture and history; this is a country whose McDonald’s would try to promote books in a kid’s happy meal replacing the toys.  I’m also ‘busy’ catching up with all the fashion trends and brands.

Sleeping Beauty

I can totally do another 21-day challenge just on fashion and music! Well, music wise, I’ll need to steal information, but on Fashion, I will just quote one picture per day from The Golden Globe award and google the celebrity and the brands they are wearing! I’m totally up for it!

Midnight children’s reading not going that well. When I’m tired, I feel more relaxed to watch a movie. Reading hasn’t been built into a habit yet… That one is tough! But I will keep trying and I’m giving myself at least a month or two to get used to it. 🙂

I think it will be great to use half of the blog writing about anything I want, any topics I come across, and the rest of the time if I have no ‘inspirations’, I will always have the #knowledge session to back it up.

Ok, let’s get started with Kate Hudson in this beautiful Alexandre Mcqueen gown.

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January 13 2013

Kate Hudson wore her Alexander McQueen black gown with Jennifer Meyer rings and carried a Roger Vivier clutch.

Kate Hudson

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kate_Hudson

I didn’t realize Kate Hudson is the girl who played in bridal war with Anne Hathaway! She looks way skinnier in the red carpet pic. Playing a leading role at You, me Dupree as well. ( I personally just can’t recognize her. She just has that blondie look that makes you forget her face… L sorry, but it’s true.)

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 Alexander McQueen, new campaign launch here:

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Jennifer Meyer:

This is an interesting one! Jennifer is the daughter of the CEO of Universal studios and her husband is Tobey Maguire- the spider-man! She’s also the designer of the MJ’s necklace in Spiderman 3!

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jennifer_Meyer

Finally Roger Vivier:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roger_Vivier

It’s most known for its buckles

This is the link for our fashion textbook. 🙂

http://www.vogue.co.uk/spy/celebrity-photos/2013/1/14/golden-globe-awards-2013